“The greatest gift a parent has to give a child—and a lover has to give a lover—is emotionally attuned attention and timely responsiveness.”

~Dr. Sue Johnson

“The greatest gift a parent has to give a child—and a lover has to give a lover—is emotionally attuned attention and timely responsiveness.”

~Dr. Sue Johnson

family cups therapy

Creating Open-hearted Connections with Families

EFT for Families (EFFT)

EFFT follows the principles and practices of Emotionally Focused Therapy to restore COnnection and promote resilience in family relationships.

The principle goal of EFFT is to re-establish more secure family patterns where attachment and caregiving responses are effective and emotional bonds are repaired.

These resources inform a network of security that provides the flexibility and closeness necessary for families to promote individual growth and meaningful relationships across generations.

Goals

  • Accessing and expanding awareness of unacknowledged feelings associated with the family’s negative pattern.
  • Reframing family distress and child problems within relation blocks reinforcing this distress.
  • Promoting awareness and access to underlying caregiving intentions and disowned attachment related needs.
  • Facilitating the sharing of unmet attachment needs and effective caregiving responses.
Black mother and her children - EFT for Families in San Diego

The EFFT Approach

The EFT process of change in EFFT focuses on stabilizing a family’s negative interaction pattern, restructuring parent and child interactions, and COnsolidating the felt security gained through these new patterns of COnnection.

Following principles of attachment science, the EFFT therapist guides the family to new patterns of parental availability, responsiveness, and COherent attachment communications as they face developmental change and life challenges.

In EFFT, the focus is on addressing blocks in parental caregiving responses and understanding the child or adolescent’s behavior in terms of attachment needs or fears. These blocks result from COnstrained, stuck responses to mis attunement and injuries in family relationships.

The EFFT therapist tracks the generational influences impacting these blocks and works through rigid patterns that disrupt attachment COmmunication between parents, siblings and between parent and child. Work with parents focuses on the building of a COherent parenting team.

The process of EFFT often moves quickly as family members become more responsive, accessible, and engaged with previously unacknowledged attachment-related emotions and needs.

Source: ICEEFT

Family Love Recipe

UnCOnditional servings of love

“The love of the family, the love of one person can heal. It heals the scars left by a larger society.”
~Maya Angelou